Figaro’s 5 ways to teach a kid to argue
Posted by contentgrrl on January 26, 2012
Years ago, I ran across a site that put Aristotle firmly in mind for his three Rhetorical appeals: ethos, pathos, and logos. The site, which is lost now, gave some wonderfully homey examples of how a child could use the three appeals to convince her mother to let her go to a certain party.
Recently I ran across FigaroSpeech’s Teach a Kid To Argue.
What?! If you teach your kids to argue, they’ll talk back! They’ll second-guess you! They’ll question everything! They might think independently…oh, wait. I actually want that.
Here is Aristotle’s Guide to Dinner Table Discourse, according to Jay Heinrichs:
- Argue to teach decision-making, by playing devil’s advocate. “You seem to have good reasons for what you want to do. But what’s going to happen next? What happens down the road? How does that affect your friends and family?”
- Focus on the future. “What’s a good way to make sure that toys get cleaned up?”
- Call fouls. “Calling names is not going to win anyone over.”
- Reward the right emotions. “Expressing anger with whining and shouting is not pathetic enough, because it doesn’t persuade me to empathize with you. Try using a calm, big boy voice.”
- Let kids win sometimes. Reward a good argument.
Liking this better and better. Aren’t you?
Yep, I got the book: Thank You For Arguing. Chock full of pop culture examples to illustrate rhetorical devices. Thinking of getting his Word Hero once I have time to get through dozens of similar books on my shelf. Anyone read Heinrich’s latest?
And if any of you English & Rhetoric teachers out there can find me a great source on the three appeals, please share.